Tuesday, March 21, 2006

Head vs. heart

Today I learned a lesson, once and for all. As my Hubby stated, a leopard doesn't change its spots, no matter how badly you wish/hope that the leopard isn't a leopard. They are what they are, and there's nothing you can do about it. He said "Your heart is bigger than your head sometimes." I know that's true -- that I give people benefit of the doubt when they don't deserve it. The dilemma for me is how to balance the two. I think I'd rather err on the side of mercy and kindness than suspicion and cynicism, but in doing so, I risk pain. But the bottom line is, I can sleep at night, knowing I've done everything possible to retain a friendship, despite indications that the friendship never truly existed in the first place, at least not the way I thought it did.

Do I regret it? No. Am I upset about it? Somewhat. Hubby got caught in the middle of a relationship that existed under false pretenses, and things were said about him that were hurtful, 100% wrong, and absolutely uncalled for. He always acted in an above-board manner, and basically was slapped in the face. That REALLY pisses me off.Bottom line -- nothing I can do about it. It's the price I pay for caring for people who end up not being deserving of my friendship. Now to move on and try to not let this happen again. Easier said than done, I'm afraid, but it's the logical (and only) thing to do.

Parting shot -- I believe in Karma. This person will have this choice bite him in the ass eventually. I don't need to be there to see it, or ever even know about it, but I know for a fact that what goes around, comes around. So watch out, users. It's gonna catch up with you, probably when you don't expect it and can least afford it.


1 comment:

obxbill said...

It seems like its extra painful and angering when someone hurts the ones we love. We know that we can take it ourselves, but when it happens to someone who is pretty much always graceful in all matters, it really can piss us off! Don't worry, I'm sure a metaphoric piano is fallout out of the sky and this person has no clue.